As a parent, it’s only natural to want to protect your child(ren), no matter how young or old they are. When your adult child goes through something as difficult as a separation or divorce, knowing how to best provide support and advice can be crucial. The legal issues that accompany many divorces are areas that you may not be able to advise your child on, however you can provide love and support.
To better help your child, here’s what you can do.
1. Offer Support
A divorce is likened to the loss of a loved one, and in many ways, the feelings that your child may feel are the same as losing a loved one. Your child will be emotional – and they may wish to talk, or they might not. Respect what they need at the time. Offer an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on as needed.
If your child is experiencing a highly emotional experience, encourage him or her to seek professional help. Having the help of an unbiased professional can lift a huge weight.
2. Step Up as a Grandparent
As your child navigates their separation or divorce, they may find that the process is emotionally charged and difficult. Make extra time in your schedule if you can to spend with your grandchildren.
It’s no secret that divorce can severely impact children. Do your best to protect your grandchildren from those affects while still respecting any boundaries set by their parents.
3. Don’t Encourage Estrangement
You might feel anger towards your child’s soon to be ex-spouse, or even your child, but try to keep it peaceful. Encourage effective communication between the ex couple. If the divorce process is rigorous, remind your child never to speak poorly of their children’s other parent.
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