Each child, whether young or old, reacts to divorce differently. Some children might feel angry, some might feel relieved, and some might feel sad. No matter how your child(ren) feels, it is so important to address their concerns and move forward after your divorce.
1. Make Time
Going to court, dealing with paperwork, and dealing with divorce in general can be very busy. Sometimes adjusting to life after it’s all over can be even more challenging. Try to prioritize your child(ren)’s needs and make time for them on a daily basis. Make sure that they know that you are focused on their feelings and their needs. Ask how they are doing and address any concerns that they might have. Remind your child(ren) that you are still a family, even though it’s a different family now, you can still have a great time together.
2. Be open to co-parenting
Handling any new parenting arrangement can be very difficult. If you are able to collaborate with your ex-spouse, it may be easier to make plans and feel at ease. Even though your ex might have a different rules or a different schedule than you do, you can both be on the same page about your expectations.
3. Be Consistent
After the ups and downs of the divorce process, try to maintain a stable environment for your kids. If you have some family traditions, try to keep them intact, or create new ones that your child(ren) can depend on.