Gift giving during the holidays can be a huge joy for parents and children, but it can also be a source of stress for both parents and children from divorced families. Although most parents have the best intentions, when strong emotions come into play, it’s easy to overlook how gift giving during the holidays can feel for children.
To help you stay on the holiday straight and narrow, here are a some tips for taking the hassle out of yours and your children’s holiday.
1. Coordinate gifts with your ex-spouse
If possible, speak to your child’s other parent regarding holiday shopping. If your child has an expensive item on their wish list, consider suggesting splitting the cost with your ex-spouse to keep things as fair as possible.
2. Say no to strings attached
Do not tell your child where to keep their gift(s) – whether the gift is from you or their other parent, the child should have the choice to choose where the gift stays. When rules are attached as such, the item starts to feel less like a gift to the child.
3. Take the high road
Children enjoy gifting and doing nice things for the people they care about, especially during the holidays. Although doing something special for your Ex may not be at the top of your to-do list, it’s important to separate your emotions from your child’s in this case.
Going shopping for the child’s other parent with your child instills security and joy around the season. Some gift ideas may include framed photos, special cards, or even baking the other parent’s favorite dessert with your child.
Do you have tips on gift giving, or do you have some wisdom to share with other parents? Let us know in the comments!
Wishing you and yours a very happy holiday!