Choosing to be intimately involved in other people’s divorces might seem from the outside to be a masochistic experience. You meet clients at their absolute worst moments, when everything is falling apart and going downhill… and then it only gets worse.
In some ways, what I do is the legal equivalent of emergency room triage. But instead of dealing with literal life and death decisions, my clients are confronting interpersonal crises that run the risk of ending in a spiritual flatline. So why would I (or anyone, for that matter) want to deal with this stress? There are hundreds of other ways to make a living!
The answer, for me, is perhaps surprisingly personal. I lost my dad when I was only 10 years old.
While I didn’t technically go through a divorce, I did find out what it was like to not have a parent. It’s awful. It’s awful to grow up without a father figure. It’s awful to go through junior high, high school, college and beyond without a male role model. It’s awful to not have the love of a father to see you through your joy and pain, your highs and lows. It’s awful to not be able to pick up the phone just to say hello. It’s just awful.
For better or worse, that experience formed who I am. It made me keenly aware of what it means to have a dad and to lose one.
In all aspects of my practice, I help my clients with mindfulness and compassion. Since I know firsthand what it feels like to experience that emptiness, sadness and hopelessness that goes hand-in-hand with losing a loved one, I strive to uphold all aspects of people’s needs – mental, social and physical. I’ve found that this holistic approach, based on my childhood, allows the parties to maintain dignity, respect and trust while still getting the results they seek.
I know my father would be proud.
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