A lot of divorced singles find themselves feeling confused and anxious when it comes to figuring out the “when” and “how” of jumping back into the dating scene. If you suspect you are ready to enter the dating scene again, ask yourself the following questions:
1. Do I still have any bitter feelings or thoughts about my ex?
If you spend your nights thinking about what went wrong, how you could have done things differently, or how your ex treated you badly, it should be pretty clear that you are still harboring negativity surrounding your previous relationship. Make sure to do your own healing work before you enter into another relationship, or chances are you’ll just end up repeating the same scenario with another person.
2. Do I check up on my ex?
Whether it involves regular checks to social media account(s), direct inquiries about your ex’s activities, or any other attempt to learn if your ex is dating or has moved on, checking up on your ex is an excellent sign that you’re not ready to commit to a new relationship.
3. Have I reached a state of stability in life as a whole?
Have you recovered financially from the divorce and are you working in a stable position that you enjoy? If children are involved, have you and your ex developed a relatively effective way to share custody that doesn’t generate strife between the two of you and provides balance for the children? Make sure you take the time to return to solid ground in your own world before introducing another person in the mix.
4. Do I have happiness, time and energy to share with another?
After a divorce, many people find that their resources are stretched further than when they were in a partnership. Be honest with yourself and decide whether you have the time and energy to devote to a new person before entering the dating scene. Also, making sure you are reasonably happy in your own life is a critical sign of readiness to date again, as an unhappy person has little to give to another (and will be hard pressed to feel any love expressed from a new partner).
Ultimately, every person will have to look deep within to determine the best time to re-enter the dating scene after a divorce. If you or a loved one are in need of a fresh start, our legal team is here for you. Contact us at (925) 276-0789 to schedule a confidential consultation today.