Reconciliation isn’t exactly common, and successful reconciliations are even rarer gems. Perhaps because of the rarity of reconciliation after divorce, not a lot of research has been done on the subject in recent years. However, if you’re considering retying the knot with a lost love, the following statistics may help put your decision into perspective.
- Ten percent of all married couples in the U.S. experience a separation and reconciliation in their marriage. (Wineberg and McCarthy, “Separation and Reconciliation in American Marriages,” 1993)
- One-third of women attempting to reconcile their marriages succeed in doing so. (Howard Weinberg, the Journal of Marriage in the Family, 1994)
- In about 45 percent of 2,500 couples surveyed, “one or both of the partners reported holding hopes for the marriage and a possible interest in reconciliation. (University of Minnesota, “Interest in Marital Reconciliation Among Divorcing Parents,” 2011)
- One in 3 men and 1 in 5 women believe that their marriage could still be saved with hard work. (University of Minnesota, “Interest in Marital Reconciliation Among Divorcing Parents,” 2011)
Improving Your Odds
Every marriage is different, and the University of Minnesota study suggests both parties must be fully committed to the prospect of reconciliation in order to achieve a successful result. Here are some tips:
William J. Doherty is a family social science professor at the University of Minnesota and author of the study cited above. In a recent interview with the Huffington Post, Doherty says divorce counseling allows couples to “say things they never said before.” This openness often provides newfound clarity for couples.
Start with a clean slate
Both parties must be willing to forgive and forget misgivings from the past. If you have any questions, concerns, or grievances that need airing, get them all out of your system before committing to move forward, so you can both start fresh.
For insight into how to obtain fair results regarding your California high net worth divorce, please call the Law Offices of Silky Sahnan at 888-228-1098 to set up a confidential consultation with our team.