If you’ve made the decision to seek divorce, you’ll find that as you go through the process obstacles will inevitably pop up. We want to prepare you for the road ahead with five critical steps to take to help you achieve the best outcome.
1. Identify your “must haves” from what is nice to have.
Divorce involves negotiation. To succeed, you must clarify your needs as opposed to what you’d love in an ideal world. By making such distinctions, you’ll be more flexible and strategic during meetings with your ex. You’ll also be better prepared to assert yourself and your desires. In turn, you’ll be more likely to avoid long, costly court battles.
2. Call in your support network.
Don’t underestimate the amount of help that your inner circle will provide–seek aid from your boss, coworkers, family and friends. Get advice from a financial planner or mental health professional to deal with whatever comes up–you don’t have to go through this alone.
3. Mentally prepare yourself.
Even seemingly simple cases can become suddenly complex or emotionally tough. Or one day you’ll feel good… only to see a birthday card your ex gave you years ago and it throws off your game. You will have good days and bad days, but keep in mind: this too shall pass.
4. Keep your children out of conflicts.
Avoid airing grievances in front of your kids. Allow children to maintain their respect and love for both parents. Be affirming without giving false hope that you’ll get back together. It is always helpful to reassure them with statements such as, “we both love you, and that will never change.”
5. Hire an experienced family law attorney to guide you.
Staying informed is the best way to improve your chances in any legal battle. A trusted attorney can provide guidance and support to deliver the results you need for your family.
Let us help you take back control of your family law situation, call the Law Offices of Silky Sahnan at 925-276-0789 to schedule a confidential consultation.