There will come a point in time post-divorce when the dust settles and you feel open to re-entering the dating scene. How can you be sure you’re ready for love again, and where do you look once that realization arrives? This is a very personal decision that is ultimately yours. To help you evaluate what’s in your heart, start by asking yourself these questions:
Do I still have any bitter feelings or thoughts towards my ex?
If you spend your nights thinking about what went wrong with your ex or how you could have done things differently, it’s likely you’re still harboring negativity from your previous relationship. Allow yourself adequate time to heal; find the closure you need to move forward in life.
Do I check up on my ex?
Whether it involves regular checks to social media account(s), direct inquiries about your ex’s activities, or any other attempt to learn if your ex is dating or has moved on, checking up on your ex is an excellent sign that you’re not ready to commit to a new relationship.
Have I reached a state of stability in life?
Have you recovered financially from the divorce? If children are involved, have you and your ex developed an effective way to share custody that doesn’t generate strife and provides balance for the children? Make sure you take the time to return to solid ground in your own world before introducing another person into the mix.
Do I have happiness, time and energy to share?
After divorce, many people find their resources stretched further than when in a partnership. Be honest—decide whether you have the time and energy to give to another person. Being happy in your own life is a critical sign of readiness to date again, as an unhappy person often finds it challenging to reciprocate the love expressed by a new partner.
If you or a loved one are in need of a fresh start, our legal team is here for you. Contact us at 888-228-1098 to schedule a confidential consultation today.